Hard truths about being a mom

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Dear ‘pre-mom’ me,

Honestly, I’m not sure what you’re hoping to hear, but the truth is this mom-gig is the hardest thing you’ve ever done.

Most moms do not have their shit together

Image: Author, probably overthinking things

(Don’t forget) You are human

It’s confusing as heck being a mom. On one hand, you will think nothing of stepping in front of a dump truck if it meant saving your childs life. Simultaneously, you will feel angry and sometimes resentful that your whole life changed overnight.

You are magical

Now, I’m not saying that moms are the abracadabra kind of magical, but becoming a mom definitely kicks in some magical powers (or at least, puts them into overdrive). You see, that whole ‘eyes in the back of your head’ is real. Okay, not completely, but you will be in awe of how much your intuition is heightened.

You have baggage (still)

You’ve had therapy, lots of it. And you’re feeling that being a psychologist has prepared you for motherhood (because your own childhood came up short). I hate to break this to you like this, but your life-long quest to understand people, relationships and yourself better will not be enough to suppress all-of-the-baggage. It’s still there.

Moms mess up regularly

Sometimes it will be from the aforementioned unresolved life-stuff, sometimes it will be from exhaustion and a lack of sleep. Whatever the reason, you will mess up regularly.

(It’s true) Some moms are shitty moms

You won’t be able to count the number of times you’ll feel like a shitty mom. But there is a vast difference between feeling crippled by self-doubt and insecurity, and actually being a shitty mom.

You always do the best you can, every day.

You’ll realize soon that there will be very few moms come into your life that believe they are doing enough. There’s always something moms feel like they could or should be doing differently, less, better, faster, more or sideways.

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On a Lifelong Journey to share Dollops of Empowerment * Authenticity Advocate * Mom of Teens * #tuesdaystale Writer

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Tanya Tinney

Tanya Tinney

On a Lifelong Journey to share Dollops of Empowerment * Authenticity Advocate * Mom of Teens * #tuesdaystale Writer